When I was in my 20s I’d swing from being arrogant to feeling incompetent. I thought, “Why am I feeling and acting like this? I don’t like the way it feels, and it certainly doesn’t help me help anyone.”
I remember being really frustrated with myself for somehow automatically doing this, because I recognized neither were true. Everyone does this to themselves but it isn’t healthy and there is something you can do about it.
If you ever looked in a mirror and concluded you weren’t attractive enough, not tall enough, or not shaped the way you wanted to be, or maybe not smart enough or talented enough, that formed a self-concept that you just weren’t enough!
If you were unacknowledged, teased, ridiculed, bullied, or made to feel unimportant, that also would have set a program in your subconscious that shook your confidence from that point on.
The crazy thing about this is…
that it probably started when you were a young child and continued in your subconscious mind all through your teenage years. And if it is not addressed it will continue for the rest of your life. In other words, it doesn’t automatically change or go away just because the years pass.
This can cause you to be easily manipulated by others because you believe their opinion is more right than yours, or they know better than you. This can lead to you do things that you may not be happy with, such as not pursuing in life what you’d really like to do, whether in your career or even a hobby.
Here is what I suggest you do…
Think about the kinds of thoughts you’ve had about yourself that have caused you to avoid what you might have wanted to do. Have you had thoughts like:
* I have to learn to be satisfied with what I have.
* I’m not really talented enough to try that.
* I’m not living up to my potential.
* I wish I were better looking.
* I seem to have missed the boat when it comes to opportunities.
* If I get it, I’ll just loose it.
* I’m not lucky like other people who are a success.
Pay attention to your thoughts like this over the next few days. I’d even suggest you write them down as that helps give you focus and clarity on them. In my next email I’ll go further into this all-important subject and show you how to break free and how to help your children too.
Oh, and one more thing. I have a free ebook for you on Self-Esteem, and chapter 3 has a test you can take to evaluate your esteem and confidence level. Check it out now.
Here’s the link to “How to Master Your Self-Esteem in 48 Hours of Less”