What’s Wrong With Me?
How often have you asked yourself, “what’s wrong with me?” Nearly everyone can point to reasons to conclude this. From messing up relationships, having accidents, having uncontrollable emotions, making damaging decisions, or just plain inabilities to succeed in health and financial goals. Maybe you’ve thought you were just not born into the right family, or under the right astrological sign, or you didn’t receive the most favorable genetics.
You are not alone, nor are you an exception. You can go from asking yourself “what’s wrong with me” to concluding there must be something wrong with me and, what’s worse, is you may have falsely concluded there isn’t much you can do about it.
Why Do You Ask Yourself, “What’s Wrong With Me?”
Everyone has a load of difficulties from the past. Everyone has suffered loss, and often also pain and trauma. That seems to be a common, but here is how you are affected by that. Every event in your life creates a memory that includes your conclusions about the events. These memories, in turn, work like programs in your subconscious mind that can affect your present and future.
You are always broadcasting your subconscious programs into the matrix or field we live in, which in turn reflects the consequences back to you in some form. This is why most of your problems repeat numerous times over your lifetime.
Let’s say you were wounded with emotional disappointment and trauma by the way you were treated years ago. Just thinking about the events can send you into an emotional tailspin and cause you to conclude that you’ll never get over it.
What Two Spiritual Teachers Advised
I’ve witnessed two people present just their deep emotional pain to two different famous spiritual teachers. The responses these teachers gave these people astounded me.
One teacher told the person who was crying her eyes out to ignore it and not allow herself to think about it. The second spiritual teacher at another meeting gave an equally worthless response to another person. He said, “Just be patient.” If someone had given you an answer like that after you poured your heart out with devastating emotions, how would you have felt? You’d probably conclude you really are a broken mess and there is something seriously wrong with you.
The Simple Solution
Fortunately, I know better. There are answers and solutions to relief from your past. In fact, the solutions and resolutions have been the major focus of my life’s work, and I know what works and how you can do it.
First of all, I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you no matter what your condition or circumstance. Yes, you may have difficulties and challenges but thinking there is something wrong with you is a false conclusion. A better approach would be to ask yourself what actually happened. That is objective, specific, and lays the foundation to do something about it.
For example, lets say you had what you thought was a very important relationship that ended. Maybe you were the one who was dumped, or you chose to end it because it wasn’t what you needed. In either case, you could have taken a heavy hit on your self-worth and concluded you are just not able to make a relationship work and you answer the question “what’s wrong with me” with there is definitely something wrong! This could lead you on a downward spiral of futility and feeling depressed.
Asking yourself what’s wrong with me is rooted in false conclusions based on what you experienced. In the case of a failed relationship, you could conclude you are defective when it comes to making a relationship work, or you could just as well conclude the failed relationship served important purposes in your growth so that your next relationship could be much more healthy, strong, and stable.
So the answer to what’s wrong with me is that there isn’t something wrong with you, but you are reacting to life from the false conclusions about the pain and loss you experienced.
The Source of Your Conclusions
Beliefs seem to be absolute. After all, if you believe something you basically conclude it is a fact. Actually, that is not the case. Beliefs may be facts, but more often than not, they are opinions and conclusions based on your perceptions at that time. Most of what you believed you have modified over the years and in many cases completely changed from your original belief.
Most beliefs are formed by what you repeatedly tell yourself about something. Much of that is likely based on what someone else told you and then you thought it made sense, so you repeated it as your own belief.
To break the cycle you’ll need to challenge your conclusions and beliefs. Here is what to do:
1. Start by objectively describing to yourself what factually happened.
Write it out, but be brief.
2. Second, describe how it made you feel including what your thoughts are that make you feel badly.
3. Third, ask what you would need to believe to feel more positive about the events.
You see, your beliefs are a result of what you have repeated to yourself over time. Repetition tricks the mind into believing something is true when it is actually only a conclusion based on current information and perceptions.
Because of this proclivity of the human mind, you can take advantage of it by repeating what you would need to believe to feel positive about your circumstances. For instance, in the case of a disappointing relationship, you can affirm to yourself, “I am whole, complete, and happy and that is my foundation for a wonderful relationship.” This reflects a positive belief in yourself that is based on your True Self. It is certainly far more truthful than thinking you are a defective looser who has something wrong with you.
One way of coming up with the positive statement is to reverse the negative one you have been thinking. In other words, what would be the positive opposite of what you’ve been telling yourself? Then use that statement as your mantra until you internalize it deeply into your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind has been mostly programmed by you repeating negative beliefs, so you can use repetition to lay down a positive foundation of beliefs. You’ll find more on how to use affirmations here: Positive Affirmations.
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